plural noun: feelings
an emotional state or reaction. The sensation of butterflies in one's stomach when they have spotted another human that they are attracted to.
Ok that was a bit lame. But still, ladies and gentlemen, when you have a crush on someone, remember: Feelings don't necessarily equal forever.
Acknowledge them but don't be lead by them. They're fickle and subject to change and also can lead us into tricky situations. Feelings are part of the soul realm, which isn't a bad thing. They exist for a reason. God gave us emotions and feelings for a purpose, so you don’t ever have to feel ashamed about having romantic FEELINGS for someone, so to speak. It’s ok. It’s natural. Just breathe!
It’s what you DO WITH THEM that counts.
Just don't let those feelings make your decisions for you. And that goes for all decisions in life, not just romance! Faithful responses are always better than emotional reactions. Make your decisions (especially romantic decisions!) based on: the Word of God, the leading of the Holy Spirit in your life (which is always in alignment with the scripture, since He wrote it) and under the safe umbrella of trustworthy, un-biased leadership, whether that leadership is your parents, pastors, older siblings and mentors.
Feelings are fun. Butterflies feel good. But process them with God and with fact. I'm sure God was chuckling when I used to get slightly tongue-tied every time my husband (who wasn't yet my husband) spoke to me at church.
Process your heart with God.
If you’re having feelings for a guy who isn't a Christian, the question has to be asked: what is it about him that makes him attractive to you? Perhaps there’s something in your own heart that needs some attention there! When I was single and began to become closer and closer with Jesus, a funny thing started to happen. Dysfunctional things became unattractive (rebellion, over-confidence, insecurity) and the things I never cared for suddenly became captivating - the first time I saw my now-husband, he was down the front of church, on his knees, passionately worshipping Jesus - I found his passion for God captivating and interesting. The way he lead people in gentleness and kindness. In humility and authority. Why? Because deep down we are designed to find JESUS attractive, interesting and captivating. When our heart is aligned correctly:
The more someone reflects Jesus, the more attractive they are.
Because Jesus is attractive! He’s awesome! Let’s all be like him.
Put God BEFORE your butterflies
Let Him be Lord of your life. And that includes your love life! He wants what's best for you and better yet, He KNOWS what's best for you. Our feelings tend to shift and change like the waves of the sea. Sometimes they're up, sometimes they're down, sometimes they're a swirling mess of hormones! They tend to be dependant on our circumstances…or our crush’s currently hairstyle - all of which, let’s be real, are subject to constant change.
You know who doesn't change? GOD. So allow Him to guide your choices. (For more on this, check out CAN I BE FRIENDS WITH MY CRUSH? )
/// JAMES 1:5-8 ///
" If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it. Ask boldly, believingly, without a second thought. People who “worry their prayers” are like wind-whipped waves. Don’t think you’re going to get anything from the Master that way, adrift at sea, keeping all your options open. "
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